Sneak Peak of a Modern Ketubah
Attending a Jewish wedding involves a traditional custom which is the Ketubah or also known for being called as the Jewish marriage contract. Ketubah should be signed by the wedding couples in front of the rabbi and their witnesses because this is part of their wedding ceremony. But with the modern world today where many couples don’t really follow any traditions, or those that are not religious or interfaith couples and even those who belong to the LGBT community, create their own version of modern Ketubah as part of their wedding ceremony.
For a newlywed couple’s vows, promises and responsibilities, these are all written in the Ketubah or Ketubot in plural term. Ketubah is often seen on the walls of the homes for newlywed couples because it is a framed document that will always remind the couple of what love and marriage life is. A pre-nuptial agreement can also take effect with the use of modern Ketubah. There are still people who prefer to have a pre-nuptial agreement first and these are often those who have failed in their first marriage and just want to make sure of their futures when they marry again.
There are guidelines in making traditional ketubahs and you may follow these steps for to you to create your own modern Ketubah as a preparation to your Jewish wedding:
The first thing that you need to do to start your Ketubah is to know what type of design, artwork and text you would like to have that will best fit you and your partner. You can ask for suggestions and help from you rabbi since they are more experienced in terms of wedding ceremonies as well as being part of the wedding ceremony per se. You may also want to hire a mediator that will help you and walk you through a step by step process in this type of agreement. You can ask them to assist you in understanding your partner’s needs and wants and vice versa.
The traditional reason for a Ketubah as an agreement is in order to protect the welfare of the future children as well as the wife. Ketubah also serves as a document that guarantees the financial support from the father when divorce is filed in the future and it also serves a way for the man not to ignore a woman.
Since married couples write their vows, writing it in their own Ketubah text is more beautiful. The content should be coming from the heart and anywhere else. You should be able to write by expressing what your heart feels like being loved and how you will love the person unconditionally and abide by rules of marriage.